Tyler and Jessica: A Musical Match Made on a Dating Website

Tyler and Jessica connected on Once over their shared love of music. Their first date was at a local music festival, where they danced, laughed, and began building a beautiful relationship that continues to grow to this day.

Tyler: “Everything good in my life comes from music, including Jessica”

Going on first dates was always stressful for me because I used to be only introduced to girls through mutual friends for the longest time. This, of course, changed with online dating, so I decided to be creative with the dates I plan, so we don’t have to sit in front of each other in a posh restaurant, desperately trying to come up with things to talk about in complete silence. 

With Jessica, we went to a local music event, so it was perfect. We danced, talked, listened to music, walked around different food vendors, and tried market food. It was great. I can definitely recommend local events for dates, or also some masterclasses where you can do something while you get to know each other. 

We’re both avid dancers, so now that we’re in a relationship, we go to all sorts of concerts and clubs to shake it off and have some fun. We’ve also been talking about starting a dance school together, so we might invite you to our classes sometime soon! 

Jessica “I had no chance when I saw him dancing to my favorite song”

I feel like our meet-cute story is straight out of a Hollywood movie. You know when you watch those cliched movies and think to yourself “This looks good on the screen, but no way is it possible in real life”. Well, I’ve proven myself wrong with that one! 

Local music and dancing festivals are my favorite, and I always go there to feel the sense of the community, meet people from the neighborhood, and have some fun. Before Tyler though, I’ve never used them as props for dates, but I’m glad it happened the way it did.

Funny enough, Tyler was the one to suggest it, even though this event we went to was closer to where I live. I guess it was destiny. We were surrounded by people and loud music which made the date less awkward than it could have been. I’m not too big on dating in general or dating online specifically, so I was a little worried about that. 

Once is the first dating website that I registered on for a while, and I only did it because my hair stylist told me it’s for people who want actual relationships, and not hookups. It turned out to be true for me 100%. I’ve texted back and forth with a few other guys and went on a date with one, but once I met Tyler, I couldn’t even think about anyone else. 

The entire night we danced, laughed, and listened to music. We’ve also met a random group of friends and hung out with them for a while. It’s hard to remember how many hours we spent there in total, but we were among the last people to leave. 

Our tips for single people 

Tyler

Make an effort when you meet someone. Ask them all sorts of questions, try to understand what they like, and see how they act and feel about things that are important to you. I noticed that Jessica and I shared a lot of values from the start, and I could do it because I dug deep with our dating chats right off the bat. We talked about some meaningless things too, for sure, but it was maybe 10% of the total conversations we had. 

Jessica 

I think the biggest advice for singles looking for love is to choose your platform carefully. There are endless apps and websites for dating out there, but not all of them are for you. Sometimes a great app for meeting casual partners will do the trick, but if you want a serious relationship, it’s better to register somewhere where like-minded people go. I made the mistake of looking for a man on an app that the majority of people use for sex dates. You won’t believe the messages I had to scroll through to find someone who was on the same page as me. Don’t be like me and go through all that trouble for no reason. Seriously.

Also, for my girlies, be safe when meeting with someone from the internet. I was super lucky with Tyler, and we did have our first date in the most crowded place ever. If something were to go wrong, I would have easily gotten help. I heard so many horror stories about creeps, so make sure you all share your location with your friends, tell them where you’re going, and send them the photo of the guy. I know we don’t like to talk about those things too much because it’s scary and uncomfortable, but it’s super important.

Stay safe and have fun!