Male Orgasm: How to Make a Man Orgasm?
Today’s article is dedicated to all things male orgasm – what it is, different types, tricks to make your man orgasm harder, and answers to some pressing questions. Buckle up!
What is a male orgasm?
Male orgasm is a culmination of the sexual act, most often accompanied by a strong positive emotional response and a physical reaction – ejaculation, which is basically a mix of sperm and other fluids that are shot out of the penis.
How does a male orgasm work?
The main steps to a male orgasm are:
- Arousal – when the man gets an erection from the initial sexual interest.
- Plateau – the couple of minutes pre-orgasm when the muscle tension in the penis is at its maximum. That’s when the man’s heart rate goes up, he may get uncontrolled body movements, and some fluid is beginning to flow from the urethra.
- Orgasm – the main event that is divided into two elements. First, the man reaches a point of no return where he can’t postpone or avoid an orgasm. Second, the ejaculation happens as a series of contractions.
- Resolution – the cool down period where the erection is fading away, and so does the muscle tension.
There is a post-orgasm period when a man cannot reach another orgasm. For younger males, this can be 10-15 minutes, while middle-aged to elderly men might need to rest for almost a full 24-hour day.
Types of male orgasms
Just like women, men can experience orgasms through multiple parts of their bodies. Here are the main areas that can get them to the O-town:
- Penis
- Prostate
- Anus
- Nipple
If you’ve only ever tried bringing your partner to an orgasm through their penis, try stimulating other areas of their body to see the results. If you’re in a mindful dating situation, and physical connection is one of your relationship goals, then experimenting with orgasms is an excellent way to work on that.
What does a male orgasm feel like?
Orgasms are hard to describe, at least that’s what we find here at Once. Yet, it’s safe to say that the sensation of an orgasm is intense, extremely pleasant, and relaxing at the same time. During the orgasm, men have a combination of physical and emotional experiences. Their bodies release semen, so they actually feel something leaving them, and the muscle contractions following this process make it even greater. There is also a huge inflow of hormones and positive emotions that make men feel as good as ever.
Can a man orgasm without ejaculating?
Typical male orgasm results in an ejaculation of semen accompanied by strong muscle contraction. However, the so-called dry orgasms are possible too.
This can happen if the man has multiple orgasms in a row, and there is, well, nothing left to shoot. It can also be a symptom of a medical issue, such as when semen goes into the bladder instead of being thrown out of the body. If your man is a yoga and meditation fan, they can reach dry orgasming through sheer power of will.
Do men have G-spots?
They do! While the term ‘G-spot’ is mostly reserved for women in our pop culture, men have it too! And it’s called prostate. Try massaging your lover’s perineum or reach it through their anus, and see where it gets you! Spoiler alert, your partner will come in no time.
Male vs female orgasm
In the grand scheme of things, male and female orgasms aren’t that different. Yes, the way the orgasm is reached differs, in the sense of what organs need to be stimulated for men and women, but the end result is pretty similar.
Both female and male orgasms increase heart rate, stimulate blood inflow to the genitals, and release good hormones that make us happier and less stressed.
The aftermath of the orgasm is not the same though. Men typically require more time before they can orgasm again, while women are less limited in that sense and can get multiple orgasms in a short period of time.
Why he isn't orgasming
If a man can’t orgasm during sex, there are several main reasons to consider:
- Medical issues and conditions
- Mental issues (such as too much stress or anxiety)
- They’re not attracted to you or your sex at all
- Porn addiction
Physical inability to ejaculate while being hard and wanting to is often caused by some kind of men’s health problems. If your partner has recently started having difficulties with the big finish in the bedroom, take them to see the doctor.
It’s also possible that they’re under an enormous amount of stress, and even getting hard for them is tricky. They might hide it from you out of shame or embarrassment or not to have you worried for them.
Sometimes, a man you’re sleeping with is not attracted to you, whether you’re a man or a woman. Sexuality is a tricky thing and it can be fluid throughout our lives, so it can happen that you’re the unlucky partner they’re caught with in the middle of their sexual preference transition.
Lastly, if the person you’re hitting up in the dating chat has a porn addiction and/or masturbates too much, they may struggle to reach an orgasm with a real person. If you suspect that this is the case, try talking to them gently about your concerns and, if they’re open to the idea, take them to couples therapy. In the meantime, move on to slow dating, where you see them less often and give each other space to process what’s going on.
How to make male orgasms stronger
There’s no single recipe for making your perfect match have extra intense orgasms, but there are things you can do to stimulate a stronger sensation.
- Health check. The strength of the orgasm sensation is related to the hormones that go through the man’s body. Testosterone, in particular, plays an important role. So, if your love language is an act of service, take your lover to the doctor, do the blood work, and make sure they’re all good on the physical health side.
- Get them moving. Sport is life, and an active lifestyle is an effective trick to spicing up the sex in the relationship. Exercising boosts our endurance, supports muscle development, and reduces stress which all contribute to better sex and stronger orgasms.
- Set the mood. Not every sexy session is equally exciting. Even couples with great sex compatibility can have mediocre sex every once in a while. If that becomes your standard reality though, then orgasms are likely to be lukewarm too. Take your partner on a steamy date, plan a surprise getaway with them, tease them with a sexy outfit or naughty conversations.
- Foreplay, foreplay, foreplay. Don’t skip the kisses, the lickings, and the playful part of sex. Getting straight down to business is perfect for a quicky in the middle of the working day, but not so much if you’re looking for something beyond covering your basic sexual needs. Make your man crave sex, drive them mad with desire, and the orgasm they’ll end up having will be strong.
- Add toys to the mix. Shake things up by adding sex toys that will stimulate additional body parts. Apply the toys to anal area, prostate, and even nipples. Men respond to all sorts of stimulation, and you can mix and match new techniques with good-old hand jobs, blow jobs, and penetrative sex.
- Ask them what they like in the bedroom. Last but not least, have a talk about sex, even if you’re still dating online and haven’t seen each other in person. Doing the things your partner likes in sex is a shortcut to satisfying them, and the happier and more turned on they are, the stronger the orgasm.
