The Hottest Dating Advice from Emily in Paris
And with the new season, Emily, unsurprisingly, finds herself entangled in all sorts of romantic situations. Sometimes she manages to get out of them gracefully, other times it’s painful but very entertaining to watch.
To celebrate the show’s return for the fourth season, we compiled a list of the best (sometimes unhinged, be warned) advice that we feel Emily broadcasts through her actions and choices. Enjoy!
#1 Stay open to new experiences, even when it’s outside of your comfort zone
Emily Cooper is no stranger to saying Yes to spontaneous dates and keeping her mind open to new experiences. Although she broke up with her long-term Chicago boyfriend shortly after landing in Paris, she didn’t let the heartbreak stop her from experiencing romance in the city of love. She didn’t speak French at the time and did not know Paris at all, but she wasted no time flirting and going on dates. And neither should you! Go out, have fun, and you’ll be bound to meet your perfect match at some point.
#2 Don’t tolerate anyone’s BS
Do you remember Thomas? The insufferable snob who looked down on everyone and probably kissed his own reflection in the mirror every morning. He and Emily met when she was vulnerable, which pushed Emily to tolerate him for way too long. Thankfully, she finally found the courage to tell him to f-off after he’d been disrespectful to her and her friends.
#3 Don’t let your love take over your life
Say what you want about Emily’s approach to work, but the girl is committed. She is set on her goal of making a difference, and she will do anything to succeed at her work. The way she juggles work projects, romance, personal drama, and everything else in her life should be studied. What can we learn from Emily here? No matter how much you like a guy (or a girl), there should always be other priorities in your life too. Think of it as mindful dating – surely you wouldn’t want your entire existence to be centered around a love interest? This would put immense pressure on your relationship, and you’ll risk destroying your personal life.
#4 Don’t underestimate the power of words
There is a lot of misunderstanding happening throughout the series because people don’t talk to each other, or they don’t say the right things. Not only Emily, but her crushes, Gabriel and Alfie could also use a lesson or two in efficient communication. In fact, we should send the trio to a master class where they will finally learn to voice their expectations, feelings, and emotions. Imagine if Alfie could set clear relationship boundaries with Emily from the start. We’d probably miss out on a steamy season, but imagine how much stress the boy would avoid!
#5 There is plenty more fish in the sea
In season four, Emily goes on a run and starts noticing all the hot Parisians walking the streets. She comes to a realization that there are, in fact, a lot of eligible bachelors in the city, and she shouldn’t get mentally stuck on her two options (Gabriel and Alfie). Unfortunately, her enlightenment doesn’t last too long, but the thought is solid nonetheless. If your situationships are going in circles, perhaps you should explore new waters.
With online dating apps like Once it’s easier than ever to start dating online and meet new people who can make your life brighter and more fun. You don’t have to go on dates with all the people you match with, but a cheeky dating chat or two won’t hurt, would it? Perhaps you’ll meet someone great, and if not, you’ll have fun stories to share with your girlfriends. The bottom line is, sometimes your current romantic options are not working out for a reason, and you should try something new.
#6 Do not dim your light for anybody
Emily is a confident girl. She didn’t cave when her loser boyfriend from Chicago told her to come back, and she’s always extra bold with her presence and fashion choices. Is she being too much sometimes? Sure! Is that a bad thing? We don’t think so. The big issue for women, and some men as well, is that they try to blend in and become almost invisible out of fear of being rejected. People like Emily are doing the opposite. Their bright clothes, loud voices, and raw emotions can turn someone away, but it’s only better. Because why would you want to be with someone when they’re not 100% supportive of your authentic self?
#7 Rushing is not always a good idea
Slow dating is not trendy in the modern fast-paced day and age. Yet sometimes it’s a great strategy to end up with the right person and not have your heart broken. Emily is passionate and enthusiastic, and we love her for that. But she most definitely could use some slowing down in her relationships. This would leave her more opportunity to reflect on her feelings and really understand what she wants from someone and from herself too.
#8 Love is more important than friendships
We made this one intentionally controversial, so don’t come for us! In the middle of the show, Emily and Camille make a pact that none of them will go after Gabrielle. Although this looks like a fair deal, they both end up breaking it and pursuing the boy after all. This situation means two things: they’re not that good of a friend to each other, and they are really serious about this restaurant chef. As heartbreaking as it is, they’re both in love with him, and genuine love is something worth fighting for. Even if it means not being the best friend in the world.
Should you follow Emily’s advice in dating?
Emily is by no means an expert when it comes to dating, and her love life is a mess 85% of the time. However, she does have many positive qualities that we can all look up to. Take her openness, for instance. The girl has been through a lot, and yes she finds it in her heart to stay a hopeless romantic. She’s also a person of action and a free spirit. Whatever she sets her mind to, she’s achieving it. She may lose a friend or two on the way, and make one of her lovers miserable, but she is determined to get to her end goal. That’s aspirational if nothing else.
