What is Breezing in Dating?
What is breezing?
Breezing is a breath of fresh air in modern dating. It’s also arguably a strong element of mindful dating and a perfect helper in building a healthy relationship.
Essentially, breezing is all about cutting off the needless BS and being true to yourself in dating. For example, if you like someone and you are matched online, instead of waiting for them to send a text first, you open the dating chat, write something, and hit send. It also means voicing how you feel and what you want, for example, saying that you really like someone but you’re still healing from a bad breakup, so you’d like to do slow dating for a while.
Where did it come from?
It’s hard to say how and why breezing came about, but we have several theories:
- It’s a generation thing. Gen Z and younger Millennials value authenticity and directness much more than their parents and grandparents. They are not interested in wasting their time on someone who doesn’t want them or doesn’t fit them, so they’re eager to be more direct and proactive when dating.
- Speaking of time, nobody has it these days! Between navigating historical events, the cost of living crisis, and their daily commitments, younger people simply don’t have the time to beat around the bush. Sure, waiting for 30 minutes before replying to a text or playing hard to get can be exciting at times, but not when you’re overbooked with tasks and worries, and simply crave human connection and sincere fun.
- Authenticity is the new cool. Dating trends come and go, and right now being true to yourself and not being embarrassed to show what you’re all about is top rizz. Breezing fits right into this trend because it promotes authenticity: sharing your emotions, establishing boundaries, and addressing issues instead of hiding from them.
But playing mind games is so fun and effective! Isn’t it better than breezing?
Generally speaking, we’d say No, mind games are not a good idea, unlike breezing. Here’s why.
Any sort of game where you pretend to not have feelings or pretend to not care about someone isn’t healthy. First of all, you put yourself through all that trouble which is just tiring. Secondly, it’s unhealthy to hide your feelings and not be your authentic self. It’s harmful to your self-esteem and confidence and will blur the relationship boundaries that you have, making you more vulnerable to toxic and plain bad treatment.
Next, most of the time playing games implies that you play it cool to not get hurt. Whether it’s because you see that the other person isn’t that into you, so you want to show them that you don’t care either. Or it stems from you being hurt in the past, and wanting to avoid the pain at any cost. Either way, it’s not good for your mental health.
Your perfect match will never make you act like that and if you do anyway, you might scare them off and ruin your confidence. Who wants that? Certainly not us.
And if that last argument doesn’t convince you, think how embarrassing it’s going to be when your lover finds out the truth. This will tell them everything you’ve been trying to hide – that you actually like them, and you like them a lot. So maybe cut off the BS early on and get straight to the point?
After all, there’s nothing sexier than confident authenticity. And what better way to communicate that than with breezing?
Breezing tips for beginners
So, how do you breeze in dating? Here are a few tips that will help you adopt this philosophy.
- Be honest with yourself. Face your demons and fear, and deal with them. You can’t be fully honest with others if you’re not honest with yourself. Similar to how you need to love yourself first to be able to genuinely love someone else.
- Don’t make them wait on purpose. Pick up the phone, respond to the text, and move on with your day. No more leaving them guessing for hours.
- Be direct, but be gentle. There are many ways you can tell someone you like them, or that they’re hurting you, or something else. Don’t use the breezing card as permission to be rude.
- Sharing is not always caring. Authenticity – good. Oversharing – bad. Even if you’re super excited about breezing and want to tell your hot date everything that’s on your mind and what you’ve lived through – don’t. You can easily overwhelm them. Don’t pretend to be someone else or hide the truth from them, but don’t burden them with too much information too soon either.
- Have fun! Avoid the trap of wanting to be very open with your lovers. Too often we replace one obsession with another, so make sure you don’t focus too much on breezing like(if) you did with playing dating games.
